LEAVING YOUR CHILDREN SOMETHING TO LOVE BY: WHAT DOES YOU CHILD WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SEX?
Posted on May 18, 2009, under General health.
“Can you suck on somebody’s thing?”
When you are able to take care of yourself and somebody else, you may start to be in love with someone. When you love someone and they love you, you may want to kiss them. Some people like to kiss the penis and vagina and some people don’t. It’s just like anything else. Everybody likes different things. We should never make anyone do something they don’t want to do, but if we are very clean and grown-up, we can learn to make our own choices about what we like and don’t like to do with other people.
”What do the boys look at in the dirty books they have? My
daddy has some, too. What’s in there?”
Books aren’t really dirty or bad. Sometimes people who write the books or take the pictures that go in the books or in the movies put in stuff that they think is interesting or will sell their books or movies. They might put in pictures of breasts, penises, vaginas, naked people, people pretending to make love. They are really very boring, because they don’t tell a story or help you learn about life or about yourself. Boys and men and some girls and women look at them to try to see some things they can’t see anywhere else or because they are curious. The whole trouble is, the books, movies, and pictures with such things in them are all made up and exaggerated so you can learn all the wrong things. If you are still curious, ask your mom and dad to show you one of the books you wonder about and talk about it with you. You will probably get real bored real quick.
”You should never play with yourself. Isn’t that right?”
Anything about how you live depends on what you think your parents think, and on what you decide together. Talk with your
parents about touching yourself and playing with your penis or vagina or clitoris, that little area on girls’ vaginas that feels good when you touch it. A lot of kids do it and a lot of adults do it, and it does not damage your body, but some people believe it is wrong to do it. Just because you can do something and a lot of people do something doesn’t make it right. Right depends on you, your parents, and what you think about life, not what most people do or don’t do.
‘ ‘Why do Mommy and Daddy make funny noises when they are in bed together?”
Well, kids make funny noises all the time, so we grown-ups should have a chance to make them, too. I don’t really know why your mommy and daddy are making their noises. They might be laughing, talking, dreaming, teasing, hugging, kissing, holding— who knows? Everybody enjoys being with someone they love, and they might make enjoyment noises just like you make fun noises when you play or watch television.
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